Peter Pett's Commentary on the Bible
Deuteronomy 22:13-21
Various Sexual Crimes (Deuteronomy 22:13).
The Protection Of A Woman's Reputation (Deuteronomy 22:13).
The rather sad message behind this regulation was that all parents should retain proof of their daughter's virginity, because some men were so evil that they might use her supposed lack of virginity on marriage in order to get rid of her without losing her dowry. It brings out the depths of man's sinfulness. It probably indicates that divorce was not easy, which should be remembered when considering Deuteronomy 24:4, for it probably indicates that any divorce required solid reasons.
Analysis using the words of Moses:
a If any man take a wife, and go in to her, and hate her, and lay shameful things to her charge, and bring up an evil name on her (Deuteronomy 22:13 a).
b And say, “I took this woman, and when I came near to her, I did not find in her the tokens of virginity” (Deuteronomy 22:14 b).
c Then shall the father of the damsel, and her mother, take and bring forth the tokens of the young woman's virginity to the elders of the city in the gate, and the young woman's father shall say to the elders, “I gave my daughter to this man for a wife, and he hates her, and, lo, he has laid shameful charges, saying, I did not find in your daughter the tokens of virginity, and yet these are the tokens of my daughter's virginity.” And they shall spread the garment before the elders of the city (Deuteronomy 22:15).
c And the elders of that city shall take the man and chastise him, and they shall fine him a hundred shekels of silver, and give them to the father of the young woman, because he has brought up an evil name on a virgin of Israel, and she shall be his wife. He may not put her away all his days (Deuteronomy 22:18).
b But if this thing be true, that the tokens of virginity were not found in the young woman, then they shall bring the young woman out to the door of her father's house (Deuteronomy 22:20 a)
a The men of her city shall stone her to death with stones, because she has wrought folly in Israel, to play the infamous woman in her father's house. So shall you put away the evil from the midst of you (Deuteronomy 22:21 b).
Note that in ‘a' an evil name is brought on the woman, and in the parallel she is therefore to be put to death. In ‘b' his charge is that he did not find in here the tokens of virginity, and in the parallel this is the reason for her sentence. In ‘c' the parents prove her innocence with the tokens of virginity and charge the man with laying shameful charges, and in the parallel he is punished accordingly.
‘ If any man take a wife, and go in to her, and hate her, and lay shameful things to her charge, and bring up an evil name on her, and say, “I took this woman, and when I came near to her, I did not find in her the tokens of virginity,” '
We must assume that cases like this had occurred, so that Moses felt it necessary to issue a warning. Indeed it sounds like the citing of such a case. The idea was that the man had married the young woman and had found her unsatisfactory. Thus in order to get rid of her and keep her dowry he had accused her of not having been a virgin when he married her. That was to say, in other words, that she had previously committed fornication. That way she would be put to death and he would be free of her without losing face and without losing her dowry.
Note the wording which is disparaging to the man. He took her as his wife, he went in to her, he hated her, he laid a shameful charge against her, he brought an evil name on her. No reason is given for his change of heart so that the assumption is that it was just his own personal attitude that was at fault. He was unwilling to accept the consequences of his own actions, and sought for an evil way out. Note also how all is built around ‘he hated her'. He began with actions of love (took her as his wife and went in to her), and ended with disgraceful behaviour (he laid a shameful charge against her, and brought an evil name on her), and all because he had taken an aversion to her.
“The tokens of her virginity (bethulim).” This is usually taken to mean the blood stained garments or sheet which resulted from her hymen breaking on her first night of intercourse. It would appear that it was expected of all parents that they would have kept these after the marriage, so that if necessary they could produce them to prove their daughter's virginity at that time. It is probable that all parents did so. (The same custom was known among some Arab tribes). While in some cases the hymen could in fact have been broken earlier as a result of vigorous activity or an accident, it would not usually be the case with a well brought up young woman.
It has, however, been suggested that what is referred to here are rather tokens which were proof that she was having periods (menstruating) right up to the time of the wedding, and had thus not been pregnant. ‘Bethulah' at this time meant a young woman of marriageable age whether married or not (see Joel 1:8). Thus the ‘bethulim' could indicate the proofs of young womanhood and faithfulness up to the time of the wedding. (Young women were married much younger in those days). This is supported by the later suggestion that there might be some argument about the position, while both parties would already know whether the ‘honeymoon' sheet was bloodstained.
‘ Then shall the father of the damsel, and her mother, take and bring forth the tokens of the young woman's virginity to the elders of the city in the gate, and the young woman's father shall say to the elders, “I gave my daughter to this man for a wife, and he hates her, and, lo, he has laid shameful charges, saying, I did not find in your daughter the tokens of virginity, and yet these are the tokens of my daughter's virginity.” And they shall spread the garment before the elders of the city.'
Then when an accusation was made against their daughter they could produce what they claimed to be the evidence of her virginity to the elders who were acting as judges at the city gates. It appears that these would normally be accepted as proof of the accuracy of their statement, as the parents represented two witnesses to the fact that the evidence truly related to their daughter at the important time. It should be noted that it is their testimony that is accepted. The court expected the parents to have such proof. Producing a bloodstained garment would not be too difficult. It was their testimony, and the fact that they would be known to have preserved it, that gave it added significance.
In a case like this it was essential that the wife's parents could prove that their daughter had been a virgin, not only to save her life and uphold the family honour, but in order that their daughter's future should not be wrecked, and so that any child born could not be denied as the rightful heir. No one would be able to say that the child was illegitimate, for the wife had been demonstrated to be a virgin on her wedding night, (and would have been carefully observed afterwards). Such rights of inheritance were seen as of huge importance.
‘ And the elders of that city shall take the man and chastise him, and they shall fine him a hundred shekels of silver, and give them to the father of the young woman, because he has brought up an evil name on a virgin of Israel, and she shall be his wife. He may not put her away all his days.'
The accuser would then be taken and ‘chastised'. This probably indicated a severe beating depending on who the man was. He was also fined a hundred shekels of silver, the price of a number of slaves, which indicated the value put on a wife. This would be given to the father of the young woman as compensation for the slur on the family name, and perhaps to be held to safeguard her future. The woman would also then remain his permanent wife, because he would no longer have a right to divorce her. That right would have been lost. She would be secure from any further charges. Presumably her family would also keep an eye on her from then on. Indeed she may no longer have lived with him, but the rights of inheritance for any children she might have would have been secured.
The punishment was because he had ‘brought up an evil name on a virgin of Israel'. Israel were proud of the virginity of their young women. They were a bedrock of society. To bring an evil name on one was to bring an evil name on Israel, unless it were true.
Under the law of witnesses (Deuteronomy 19:19) we might have expected him to be put to death. But the decision here probably took into account that that would not be helpful to the injured woman. Instead he was to be sentenced to maintain her without any further accusation for life.
‘ But if this thing be true, that the tokens of virginity were not found in the young woman, then they shall bring the young woman out to the door of her father's house, and the men of her city shall stone her to death with stones, because she has wrought folly in Israel, to play the infamous woman in her father's house. So shall you put away the evil from the midst of you.'
However, if no tokens of virginity could be produced the woman would be presumed guilty. Had they existed they would have been preserved. She was then to be taken to the door of her father's house and stoned to death. This was because the parents had failed, possibly innocently, to ensure that their daughter was a virgin when they had arranged for her marriage, although professing that she was. This would incidentally support the fact that the tokens of her virginity were proof of menstruation up to marriage, as both parties would already have known whether no blood had been found on the ‘honeymoon' sheets, and would have come to an arrangement accordingly. She would be stoned because she had ‘wrought folly in Israel', a technical term for particularly obnoxious behaviour which was grievous to Yahweh (compare Genesis 34:7), by acting like a prostitute while living with her family.
All this would, of course, only apply if at marriage the claim had been made that she was an intact virgin. If not a certificate may well have been obtained acknowledging that that fact was known.
One lesson for us from this is the importance laid on virginity at marriage. This was God's purpose for His people.