The Biblical Illustrator
Proverbs 26:4,5
Answer not a fool according to his folly, lest thou also be like unto him
Answering a fool according to his folly
The ambiguity in these verses lies in the connecting words “according to,” which are here used in two different senses.
“Answer not a fool according to,” i.e.,, not in a manner agreeing with his folly, lest thou become as foolish and perverse as he. “Answer him according to,” i.e.,, according to the nature and desert of his folly; so as best to meet and refute it. (E. Pond, D. D.)
The treatment of a fool
There are many cases in which a fool is to be heard, and not answered at all. When a scorner reviles us, it is needless to reprove him for it. Our Lord often kept silence when impertinent questions were asked Him. But silence cannot be the rule in every ease. In many cases it is proper that a fool’s words should be answered, only you must take care in answering not to imitate him. If he speaks unreasonable, profane, peevish, or passionate words, you must not answer him in his own style. You are angry at him for his folly, and reprove him for the extravagance of his behaviour, and therefore you cannot but confess that yourselves are worthy of a very sharp reproof, if you behave like him at the very time that you are testifying your displeasure at his conduct. It becomes not the followers of Jesus to return railing for railing, or one angry reflection for another, but in whatever manner others talk, our tongues ought still to be governed by the law of meekness and charity. (George Lawson, D. D.)
The scorner answered
A certain preacher had wrought his best to benefit his audience; but one of them came to him, and somewhat rudely remarked, “Your preaching is of no use to me. I do not believe that I have a soul; I don’t want to be talked to about an imaginary hereafter. I shall die like a dog.” The minister calmly replied, “Sir, I have evidently failed through misapprehension. I did my best for the good of all my hearers; but I prepared the entertainment under the notion that I was catering for men with souls. Had I known there were creatures present who had no souls, and would die like dogs, I would have provided a good supply of bones for them.” (C. H. Spurgeon.)
Reply to scoffers
It is stated by one of the biographers of John Wesley that while he was staying at an hotel at Oxford for a few hours, some wild young men, who were aware of the fact, took occasion to play a joke upon him. Coming suddenly into the room where he was sitting, they exclaimed, “Oh, Mr. Wesley, the devil’s dead!” The aged saint arose, and placing his hands upon the heads of two of the young men, he said, with a voice full of pity, “My poor fatherless children, what will you do?”