Genesi 38:11

Then said Judah to Tamar his daughter in law, Remain a widow at thy father's house, till Shelah my son be grown: for he said, Lest peradventure he die also, as his brethren [did]. And Tamar went and dwelt in her father's house.

Ver. 11. Lest peradventure he die also, &c.] Judah lays the fault all on her, whereas it was in his sons. Sarah, on the other side, blamed herself only for barrenness. Gen 16:2 "Judge not, that ye be not judged": but "if we judge ourselves, we shall not be judged." In judging of the cause of our crosses, we are oft as far out as she was, that laid the death of her child to the presence of the good prophet.